The Social Development Unit (SDU) is a local agency that promotes marriage among singles in Singapore, especially amongst graduates. However there is a social stigma that only desperate singles will turn to such dating agencies. I found the following article to be rather enlightening and perhaps we can do with a little love advice:
Of SDU and Fortune-telling
I had recently graduated and was 'enlisted' into Social Development Unit (SDU). I am one of those who did not want to go through the hassle of rejecting the complimentary membership. Even before I had joined there was a lot of urban myths surrounding the organisation. Apparently there is this stigma going around that only social desperados consisting of geeks and nerds become members.
An invitation to a networking session was extended to new members and I decided to make good use of this opportunity to see for myself if these rumours were true. I was pleasantly surprised as the SDU of today is so unlike the SDU when it first started. It does not brand itself as some matchmaking agency but feels more like selling a social lifestyle. Their calendar is brimming of several interesting social events and programmes which they proudly introduced some of it to us. There was grooming tips, dance lessons, the popular speed-dating and much more.
The erroneous perception that only less desirable people participate is seriously passe. In this fast-paced modern society of ours, people are engaged in far too many commitments and singlehood is commonplace. When we are all exhausted from work and are inclined to laze, sometimes all we need is just that extra nudge for social activity. The session I was in had a fair mix of good-looking guys and girls of different backgrounds including at least two budding journalists.
By some weird twist, I had seeked a fortune-teller in recent times and she revealed my cursed fate that included a high possibility of not getting married. I am not a fatalistic person but it is depressing to have so much bad things said about you. So attending the session was more for the experience and not for a 'hunt'.
Yet it is a pretty good chance to hitch a potential love interest from their events and even I almost found a soul mate in an enjoyable chat with a tuition teacher. But alas, it was 'almost' as I had left the session without getting any contacts. In some way I had succumbed to self-fulfilling prophecy.
We should all slay our own misconceptions and keep an open mind when it comes to SDU and relationship finding. It is possible to find romantic love in SDU, so why cast a cruel fate on yourself by restricting yourself?
3 comments:
It's best to meet as many prospective spouses as possible and then narrow your interests, rather than just "hope a neat chick falls from the floor above to land at my desk one day"
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Hey Chesty,
You are right about that! Hoping and dreaming alone will get us no where.
Ha!
Or just not bother. Is it really that important to find someone to share your life with?
Sometimes it doesn't seem worth the hassle.
Call me passive or fatalistic, or whatever, but I tend to not look for romance. It always seem to only lead to trouble. While that may sound hypocritical since I am in a relationship, I must say though, if he had never made the move, quite frankly, I would probably still be happily single.
Yes, I see all the advantages to having someone in your life. At the same time, being alone isn't so bad either. In some ways, it's a lot less trouble =P
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